The Isolation of Motherhood
Did you know that an average of 353,000 babies are born each day around the world? And yet, the first few weeks (and months) of having this tiny human to take care of is the MOST lonely time in a mom's life!
Winter weather in Upstate New York is awful - cold, blistery, and snowy. With a 2-year-old and newborn, I felt much less than inclined to leave my house most days, especially since my husband is gone for work from 7 am - 7 pm most days. I was mentally exhausted and my body was tired from not getting very much exercise. And my house was chaos...because whose house isn't when a new baby is priority! I felt like I had no control over my schedule, since my baby's mood dictated everything we did. Each day by 6 pm, both kids were miserable. And I was miserable. I, just like many other moms with a new baby, felt helpless and needed something to break me out of the new-mom-funk!
I had recently taken over Baby Boot Camp Syracuse, and got was a Mountain Buggy duet to bring my kids to class with me. During this extremely isolating time, there the box sat in our kitchen, and it was there that I saw a little tiny glimmer of hope. My daughter obviously saw that glimmer too, and asked me daily when they could go for a ride in it. That daily reminder helped me to remember how much I had to look forward to as a new Baby Boot Camp franchise owner. I’d tell her, “Not until spring, it’s too cold outside.” As you can imagine with a 2-year-old, this was an unacceptable answer.
One lonely night, I jumped up out of nowhere and decided to set up the stroller. I settled both kids into the buggy and started to walk around our kitchen. I couldn't believe how incredibly smooth and light the stroller was! It felt like pushing a cloud...seriously! I looped around our living-room. Then around and around the same loop, over and over and over…for at least an hour. My baby SLEPT! My 2-year-old was quiet and loving the repetitive motion. How had I missed this goldmine until now?!
This continued for a few nights before graduating to outdoors (with winter jackets and blankets, of course!). This was exactly what I needed to motivate me to return to Baby Boot Camp classes where I could talk to other moms about my sad, lonely, isolated feelings. Talking about it to moms that truly understood really helped me to go home feeling connected and energized. I realized how important it was for me to find and stick with a routine to help me guide me to the light.
Although I was lonely, I realized that I am never truly alone. My Mom Strong Tribe will always be here for me. We're here for you too, Mama. ♥